I know all you mom’s know what I’m talking about. The ‘disease’ we seem to succumb to as soon was we find out we are pregnant. We begin to forget EVERYTHING! I once went to church with conditioner on my hair, not the leave in kind, because I forgot to rinse it out. I have my third child to blame that on. The thing is, there’s another type of ‘Mommy Brain’ we get. We soon get set in mommy mode and never leave. Not for anyone. Even when we are “spending time with our hubbies” we are still thinking about the kids, did I hear them?, did they just run through the house? Our hubbies deserve better.
I’ve noticed little things in my behavior that signal that I’m stuck in mommy brain.
- I make sure the kids’ clothes are washed, but forget to do my hubby’s because I was buried in laundry and didn’t want to do one more load. (Yes, he does help with the laundry, but I’m home all day, and I can put a load in and then move it, doesn’t take much time out of my day)
- When it’s dinner time I make sure the kids have something to drink, but overlook what Gerad might want.
I know none of these things are life altering, but they do show Gerad that I care about him and his needs if I put him before the kids. When I’m in mommy brain, Gerad’s needs are no where near the top of my list he comes in 4th or 5th depending on my level of selfishness. I don’t want Corbynn learning that a mommy’s job is to only be a mommy. My job is to be a wife to Gerad and then a mommy to the kids God has blessed me with. I want to leave that as a legacy to my kids. I can care for my kids very effectively while in wife mode, I just keep my priorities in check. Gerad comes before the kids.
I’ve been stuck in Mommy and teacher mode a lot lately. We’re getting ready to start our first year of homeschooling and it has been on the front of my mind, for a couple of weeks now, which is why I’ve been so absent here. I realized I write out of where I am in marriage and the last few weeks I haven’t been thinking about or working on my marriage very much. I’ve realigned my “mommy brain” and am working on keeping a balance between the kids’ needs and Gerad’s.
If any of you have any ideas on how to keep ‘Mommy Brain’ at a distance when you need to be in ‘Wife Mode’ please leave a comment, I could sure use some ideas!
P.S. I’m going to have a guest post tomorrow from Mission:Husband, you don’t want to miss it!