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More Than Just Flowers

1 Nov

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Last week Benjamin (he’s 5), asked his dad to bring me home flowers from him. (He does this every once in a while.  For my birthday he gave his dad very specific instructions on what type of flowers to buy me.  He wanted pink roses.)  Gerad got home from work and Ben was right there waiting to see where they were.  I heard Gerad say, ‘on the freezer’ but didn’t think much of it.  A few seconds go by and then Ben comes in with a bouquet of flowers for me, beaming!  I adore the fact that he wants to buy me flowers and show me love like that.  I know he’s learning how to treat his future wife (eek, I don’t want to think about that for a while!) and feel so blessed he has Gerad as his example.

Here’s the thing, I oohed and ahhed over the flowers, I posted a picture on facebook, I made sure he knew how much I appreciated them and what they mean to me.  I praised his sweet and caring heart and gave him the love he was hoping to get from his mom.  I also, reminded Gerad he’s doing a good job as a dad training Ben up.

Then, God reminded me I need to treat Gerad that way too.  See, I’m not a big flowers girl, I don’t usually ooh and ah over them.  I don’t often tell Gerad how sweet he is for thinking of me.  I don’t talk about them the next day, sometimes I don’t even post a picture on facebook. (On our anniversary this year, Gerad posted the picture.)  I was giving my son more praise and thanks for flowers than I give Gerad.

Why? Because I know he loves me? Because I expect sweet gestures from him? Because we are comfortable in our relationship? Because I am taking him for granted? Gerad needs my encouragement and praise MORE than our children!  I need to make sure he is getting that from me.

Maybe you react well when receiving a gift, but you complain about sitting and watching football with your husband on Sunday afternoon, after you spent Saturday morning cheering your kids on at their sporting events.  Whatever little thing it is, make sure you keep your husband #1 so that he and your kids know it!

Vacation = Lessons Learned

4 Jul

We’ve been home for almost a week now from our vacation.  Here’s a picture, just to let you know how beautiful it was.

It was amazing, especially after I realized it wasn’t going to be like the vacations we used to have, sans kids, or the ones we had when we only had 1 kid.  They ruled our schedule, not because we let them run our life, but because, well, they are 5, 3, and 10 months old.  There is only so much sitting in the car, looking at lighthouses and stopping at lookout places to see the “amazing view” from the car.  (They usually can’t see it, even in their seats they can’t see over the hill and out to the ocean…) 

After the first few disappointing non-touristy days, we decided they just wanted to play at the beach.  So that’s what we did.  Vacation was fun, but … it didn’t feel like vacation to me.  It felt like every day I have at home normally, except I was in someone else’s house without all of my kids’ toys to entertain them. 

It felt a lot like this …

I had to make the best of our circumstances and not rely on a faulty view of what I thought vacation was going to entail.

One of the things that really helped with vacation was to make sure Gerad and I were having fun together so we could stay connected.  (It got pretty tricky cause our youngest was going to bed at 10:30, waking up once to eat in the middle of the night and then decided upon a new wake up time of 5:30.  I am in NO way a morning person!)  We did things like play frisbee on the beach (just the two of us), go on bike rides (as a family, but still fun) and let the kids stay up late to watch the sunset together (while they ran around the beach).

Now, don’t get me wrong, I love my kids and being a mom and will cherish the memories we made forever, but it reminded me,

Gerad and I need time alone, just us!

It might be a date night (which when we got home from vacation was a long, distant memory), or maybe it’s a weekend away.  I’m a much better wife and mom when I don’t put all of my attention on my kids.  Take time for your spouse!  Even if you can’t get away on a date night and need to have a date at home once the kiddos are in bed, even better if they are older and you can tell them to stay in their rooms for a while :)  We have been blessed to get a night away this month and I’m really considering counting down the days until we get to leave!

Linked up to Wifey Wednesdays @ To Love, Honor and Vacuum, and Women Living Well Wednesdays

Daddy’s Princess

17 May

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Recently, Corbynn has been enamored with brides.  They are princesses and she loves to look at their dresses and talk about how pretty they are.   She asks me things like, “When do I get to where a princess dress?” She loves to look at our wedding pictures and the pictures we have from our friends wedding with her and the bride and groom.  She desires to be a princess, and what it entails to her is putting on a pretty dress and walking down an aisle to marry a man.  This has got me thinking about the way I portray marriage to her, I want her to know it won’t be easy, but more than that I want her to know it’s worth it.  I love knowing I’m Gerad’s princess, and that one day I did get to put my princess dress on and walk down the aisle to him.

What about when Corbynn asks me a simple question about “when she grows up?” which happens to be her favorite phrase at the moment?  I have a choice to make in answering her, I can either impress on her heart that God created her to be a wife and mom, and to serve her husband and her family or I can just answer her question with, “We’ll have to see what happens.”  I have to remember that the words I speak to her about her future and her future marriage are very important.  They will shape how she views marriage and how she should treat her spouse.

Moms and Grandmas, I challenge you to look at how you portray marriage to the little ones in your care this week.  Remember the little things do matter!

Do you find this an area you struggle with?  If so, why? If not, how do you succeed?

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