Cruise Control

14 Sep

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Cruise control is a blessing when you are driving on the highway or freeway.  It saves you the pain of trying to keep a steady speed, the pain of continually readjusting your foot because it fell asleep while you were driving.
Cruise control is not a blessing in our marriages.  We can’t just hit a button and cruise through life.  Life is too distracting for that.  We’ll end up making a pit stop, messing up our marriage along the way.  Cruising through marriage is so easy to do!  You have a few good days so you think its ok to not work on it for a couple of days.  What happens is you fall so far away from each other in a SHORT time!  You are suddenly living with a stranger, someone you don’t even know.  (Please don’t think people who ‘have a good marriage’ in your eyes are exempt from this in anyway.  Gerad and I were talking about how we could easily be right there.  We have to make the decision to keep working on our marriage and oneness each day.)

The problem gets really bad when one or both of you just give up … Don’t give up!  Your marriage is worth it!

I challenge you this weekend to pursue your husband.  Find something fun to do together, grab your favorite pint of ice cream and share it, learn about something he’s interested in, watch the game with him (and maybe plan some half time ‘activities’.

(I’ll give you my best tip for watch sports with guys, promise you won’t tell them though! If you read the bottom of the screen where they are running information about the game, you’ll learn a lot and be able to interject into the conversation.  During football it tells you things like, this player has only had 3 sacks this year.  Guys (at least mine) get impressed when we can give them some stats about what they are watching.)

4 Responses to “Cruise Control”

  1. Auntie Em September 14, 2012 at 12:00 pm #

    So very true, and it can be even harder to avoid when you are oh-so- comfortable and compatible! A good marriage takes effort and intentionality, every day. Thanks for a great post!

    • Valerie September 15, 2012 at 7:38 pm #

      Thanks for your comment. Sometimes I don’t like to admit that it takes so much work, because then I have to put it in, but when I do it’s so wonderful!

  2. livinginblurredlines September 15, 2012 at 9:30 am #

    Hubby can’t be home this weekend, but I sent him a YouTube video that’ll touch his heart.

    • Valerie September 15, 2012 at 7:37 pm #

      That’s a great idea, I’ll have to remember that for time away from each other. Thanks for the comment

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