Cruise control is a blessing when you are driving on the highway or freeway. It saves you the pain of trying to keep a steady speed, the pain of continually readjusting your foot because it fell asleep while you were driving.
Cruise control is not a blessing in our marriages. We can’t just hit a button and cruise through life. Life is too distracting for that. We’ll end up making a pit stop, messing up our marriage along the way. Cruising through marriage is so easy to do! You have a few good days so you think its ok to not work on it for a couple of days. What happens is you fall so far away from each other in a SHORT time! You are suddenly living with a stranger, someone you don’t even know. (Please don’t think people who ‘have a good marriage’ in your eyes are exempt from this in anyway. Gerad and I were talking about how we could easily be right there. We have to make the decision to keep working on our marriage and oneness each day.)
The problem gets really bad when one or both of you just give up … Don’t give up! Your marriage is worth it!
I challenge you this weekend to pursue your husband. Find something fun to do together, grab your favorite pint of ice cream and share it, learn about something he’s interested in, watch the game with him (and maybe plan some half time ‘activities’.(I’ll give you my best tip for watch sports with guys, promise you won’t tell them though! If you read the bottom of the screen where they are running information about the game, you’ll learn a lot and be able to interject into the conversation. During football it tells you things like, this player has only had 3 sacks this year. Guys (at least mine) get impressed when we can give them some stats about what they are watching.)