Why doesn’t he change?

12 Jul

Sometimes we as wives have a list in our head of things we wish our husband would do differently; the things we wish he would change, things we wish he did our way.  I wish Gerad did the laundry MY WAY!

Sometimes it’s a much more difficult topic.  Maybe, you wish your husband would lead your family, you wish he put you first more often, you wish he would spend more time at home or you wish he disciplined the kids when he was home.  The problem is once we notice the problem we start trying to fix him, we start nagging trying to get the desired result.  We are never going to get the desired result by nagging and trying ourselves (ok, you may, but it’s probably not going to be genuine change, it’ll be so he can live in peace and quiet from your nagging).

The only way I know how to get any results is to wait on God.  He is the one who will change your spouse’s heart about your family.  From my experience, any time I wait on God to work on Gerad because I “need” this action from him, He always ends up changing me first.

If you want to see a change in your husband, wait on God, knowing that He may change you first!

I wrote this post along with a group of Christian ladies, working on our blogging.  All of us wrote posts about Waiting on God.  Here’s the links to all of their posts.

Posts In The Series
Linking up with The Alabaster Jar and The Better Mom

13 Responses to “Why doesn’t he change?”

  1. Debi Walter July 12, 2012 at 10:27 am #

    Oh this is such a needed practice. Waiting on God to bring about needed change can be so hard because we don’t like waiting. When I’ve been called to wait that’s when I’m tempted to think too much about how I would go about changing others. I am slowly learning the benefit of waiting on God to do what only He can do, and you’re right, I’m usually the one most in need of change.
    Thanks for this post. I pray it will encourage many, as you have me.

    • Valerie July 12, 2012 at 10:31 am #

      Thanks Debi! It’s something I’m continually working on. I’m learning it’s not all about me, but about the change He brings in me!

  2. Sara July 14, 2012 at 7:07 am #

    Waiting is a necessary thing in life. Whether you’re waiting for the next meal, in line, or for some little one to tie their shoes before heading out the door. Waiting on God is probably the most difficult because we know he is all powerful and can fix anything he chooses – so why doesn’t he fix it? Hmmm Maybe it is because he is “fixing” it (you) in the waiting.

    • Valerie July 15, 2012 at 3:52 pm #

      It’s so true Sara :) Often I’m the one needing the fixing!

  3. lholmes79 July 16, 2012 at 8:58 am #

    So true! Recently I tried to fix my hubby, and found out that I was the problem!lol..thanks for your wisdom. :) I hope you’ll join my link-up on Wednesday – I’ll be giving away a $25 Wal-mart gift card. Blessings, Lauren lholmes79.wordpress.com

  4. Jolene Engle (@JoleneEngle) July 16, 2012 at 2:58 pm #

    Excellent post, Valerie! So glad you linked it up with The Alabaster Jar! This is exactly the type of post I’m looking to have linked up with Marital Oneness Mondays!

    • Valerie July 16, 2012 at 3:24 pm #

      Thanks for reminding me about your link up :)

  5. lorneth July 19, 2012 at 8:33 am #

    Thanks for reminding wives to wait on God!

  6. Ponder Woman July 27, 2012 at 3:35 pm #

    Have you been spying on me??? LOL.

    Yes, I’m guilty. Even though I know better now I forget that I know better all the time. Thanks for the reminder.


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